HIV and AIDS: Information for Heterosexuals
The introduction sheet mentions the ways in which heterosexual sexual intercourse can cause HIV transmission and so we will focus on protection and risk reduction methods.You must always use a condom when having sex. It sounds easy enough but it is vital this is because HIV is transmitted by unprotected, penetrative vaginal sex. Remember that this is the main route of HIV transmission and the Pill, a diaphragm (cap) or the coil, do not protect against HIV!
Other ways of protection without the man using the condom is to use a femidom as they do protect against HIV, STD's and pregnancy. They are made of plastic and so can be used with most lubricants and are placed inside the vagina. Although made for the vagina they are also used for anal sex, but the safety has not been scientifically tested.
Some heterosexuals do enjoy anal sex and if you do this use extra strong condoms and plenty of lube. The use of a condom of femidom will make intercourse safer.
Oral sex is one area which few are certain about the risks of HIV transmission. So let's look at the facts. Firstly it is less risky than unprotected vaginal or anal sex. This does not mean it doesn't carry any risk, only that it is less risky.
Ways in which you can further reduce the risk is by avoiding getting semen in the mouth especially if there are any cuts, sores or ulcers in the mouth. You can also use protection: by using a condom with a man or using a dental dam (simply a thin latex square) on a woman.
Sex toys such as vibrators also carry a risk of infection if they are shared. So either use your own or ensure they are sterilised after use.
Rimming is not a HIV risk UNLESS you have just had anal sex with them. However it can pass on Hepatitis and other infections which are dangerous, especially if you already have HIV.
Water Sports (when someone urinates over you) is safe but don't let it enter your eyes, mouth or any cuts for safety. Playing with faeces does carry a risk as it may contain traces of blood and can pass on many other infections.
For any bondage/S&M activities you may carry out ensure that your partner doesn't betray your trust and discuss safe sex first. Any activity that draws blood such as whipping, caning, piercing etc is followed by cleaning the blood off anything. Do this with a bleach/water solution (1 part bleach to 10 parts water).
If you are having sex try to talk about safe sex, but remember that it is an individual responsibility. Do not do anything if you are uncomfortable with it! Remember you must maintain your safety even if someone wants to disregard his.
